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NCSB July 23, 2010

If a lawyer meets with both spouses as a prospective divorce mediator, can he later represent one spouse in the case?

Short answer: No, not without the other spouse's consent. The opinion concludes that a lawyer who held himself out as a neutral and had substantive discussions with the wife about the mediation process participated personally and substantially as a mediator, so Rule 1.12(a) disqualifies him from later representing the husband unless all parties to the proceeding give informed consent confirmed in writing, even though the mediation never took place.

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Plain-English summary

A lawyer met twice with a husband about separating from his wife; both meetings dealt only with mediating the marital dissolution. At a third meeting the wife attended. The lawyer disclosed the prior two meetings, said he would remain "neutral," would not give either party legal advice, and would only discuss the mediation process. The wife said she was represented by her own lawyer; the lawyer said he was willing to serve as mediator if her lawyer advised her to agree. He later sent both spouses a separation checklist that gave information about issues a separation agreement should address but no substantive advice. The wife consulted her lawyer and decided not to pursue mediation. The husband then asked the lawyer to represent him in the equitable distribution action the wife filed.

The opinion answers that the lawyer may not represent the husband without the wife's consent. Rule 1.12(a) bars a lawyer from representing anyone in connection with a matter in which the lawyer participated personally and substantially as a mediator, unless all parties to the proceeding give informed consent confirmed in writing. The opinion reasons that although the mediation never occurred, the lawyer held himself out as a neutral and had substantive discussions with the wife about the mediation process, so he participated substantially in the mediation. To protect the integrity of the neutral role of mediators, he is disqualified from representing the husband absent the wife's consent.

In practice

Under the North Carolina rule as it stood at the time of the opinion, a lawyer who acts as a prospective neutral, by holding himself out as neutral and discussing the mediation process substantively with both sides, has participated personally and substantially as a mediator within Rule 1.12(a), even if no mediation session takes place. Per the opinion, that participation disqualifies the lawyer from later representing one party against the other in the same matter unless all parties to the proceeding give informed consent confirmed in writing.

Common questions

Q: A planned mediation fell through. Can the would-be mediator now represent one of the parties?

A: Not without the other party's consent. The opinion concludes that holding oneself out as neutral and substantively discussing the mediation process counts as participating personally and substantially as a mediator under Rule 1.12(a), so the consent of all parties confirmed in writing is required.

Q: Does it matter that the mediation session never actually happened?

A: No. The opinion concludes the lawyer still participated substantially because he held himself out as neutral and had substantive discussions with the wife about the mediation process, so Rule 1.12(a) applies despite the mediation not occurring.

Q: What would let the lawyer take the representation?

A: Rule 1.12(a) permits the representation only if all parties to the proceeding give informed consent confirmed in writing; here that means the wife's written informed consent.

Background and rules framework

The opinion applies North Carolina Rule 1.12(a), the analogue of Model Rule 1.12, which governs a former judge, arbitrator, mediator, or other third-party neutral. Rule 1.12(a) prohibits a lawyer from representing anyone in connection with a matter in which the lawyer participated personally and substantially as a mediator unless all parties to the proceeding give informed consent confirmed in writing. The opinion treats the rule as protecting the integrity of the neutral role.

Citations and references

Rules of Professional Conduct:

  • MR 1.12 / NC Rule 1.12(a) (former judge, arbitrator, mediator, or other third-party neutral; disqualification absent informed consent confirmed in writing by all parties)

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Original opinion text

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Inquiry:

Lawyer consulted with Husband on two occasions about separating from Wife. During both meetings, only questions about mediating the marital dissolution were discussed.

Wife attended the third consultation with Lawyer. At the meeting, Lawyer disclosed the prior two meetings with Husband. He also advised Wife that he would remain "neutral" during the meeting with her; would not give either party legal advice; and would only discuss the mediation process. Wife informed Lawyer that she was represented by her own lawyer. Lawyer told Wife that he was willing to serve as the mediator for the marital dispute/dissolution if her lawyer advised her to agree. Lawyer also told Wife that he had discussed his potential roles as either advocate or mediator with Husband in the prior meetings and that, for the present, Husband chose to keep Lawyer "neutral."

At their request, Lawyer subsequently sent a separation checklist to both Husband and Wife. The checklist gives information about the issues a separation agreement should address. It does not provide substantive advice.

Wife consulted with her lawyer and decided not to pursue mediation. Husband would now like to employ Lawyer as his advocate in the equitable distribution action filed by Wife. May Lawyer represent Husband in the equitable distribution action?

Opinion:

No. If Lawyer was acting in the role of a mediator when he consulted with Wife, Rule 1.12(a), Former Judge, Arbitrator, Mediator, or Other Third-Party Neutral, prohibits him from representing anyone in connection with a matter in which he participated personally and substantially as a mediator unless all of the parties to the proceeding give informed consent confirmed in writing. Although the mediation never occurred, Lawyer still held himself out to be a neutral and had substantive discussions with Wife about the mediation process. Therefore, he participated substantially in the mediation process and, to protect the integrity of the neutral role of mediators, he is disqualified from representing Husband without the consent of Wife.

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